To be or not to be ... that is the question? Well, I've got another pressing one here too ... What do I do when I really don't know in what direction to turn? Breathe ... and welcome ... allow ... notice without attaching to the story, the labels, the interpretations ... breathe ... welcome ... notice ... breathe again ... notice the moment with the five senses or however many are available ... breathe into the present moment ... release the need for an answer ... silence ... listen ... allow ... welcome it all. I am being done, present, receiving, patient, calm.
Oh sure, we've heard these suggestions to just breathe, right? maybe even tried them, but. But what? Still don't know? Not working? It's the thinking and believing that something else is needed, that knowing is needed, that doing something right now is needed. But, oh the stress of insisting and expecting the knowing and the divine invitation, message and maybe lesson is to allow the not knowing. It is the expectation that is the issue that takes us completely away from calm, presence, of the ability to get still and just listen. That's where inspiration comes. That's where the ideas percolate. That's where the seeds of peace are planted and grow. In that moment, there is no need to know. Notice that it's not a need like breathing if life as we know it is to continue. The need becomes being with it as is. Arguing with it certainly isn't helping is it?
In the not knowing and in the stillness, you may be presented with other possibilities. Invite calm and love into your heart. Invite and welcome not knowing. How liberating it can be to release that illusion of control. Come into your own business in that moment and then the next one and the one after that. There is a power that is at work, there are people who are making their own choices and none of that is your business. It doesn't mean your helpless. It means your clearer to get calm, inspired and make choices from that place, not a stressed out place. And, for me I can say it sure takes practice.
So what is my business, after all? What do I do when I don't know what to do? My business can be to: breathe, release control, consider a kind response, journal ideas, pray, consider if and how I will communicate, seek trusting supports, do something healthy and nurturing, offer but not insist another receive, invite, listen, try to understand, *question my fears and concerns, seek to understand, notice and let the things I can not control just be which certainly helps to let go and get out of God's business and another's very path in life, especially when I am not invited. They too, like all of it, are God's business. They too may be being moved and used for a purpose I simply can not know, and one that is far beyond my ability to imagine or assume I know what is best or better. But when I go there, I leave myself and wander deeper into fear, assumption and expectation - ouch!
What do I do when I don't know what to do? Breathe, wait, just be and let it be, trust, get open to possibility. My experience of this is inspiration and being moved rather than trying to manipulate and control. Part of the flow, flowing, adapting, adjusting, available, present. A much more peaceful place to consider choices. A re-connection to love itself. It begins with me each and every time. What is your business? It surely becomes clearer if and when we bring our awareness to and practice getting out of another's and out of God's business, and listen for a kinder and more effective way. I can't take care of the future until I take care of this moment. And that's the only one I've got right in front of me. Breathing in, I breathe into this moment. Breathing out, I am here.
Wishing you peace.
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