Fear, blame, confusion, desperation, isolation, guilt, trying to fix and control are some of the reactions when we love someone engaging in dangerous substance use, in addiction, even after treatment. Do you wait for the next shoe to drop? Are you waiting for "the call"? Are you waiting to get your loved one back, living in confusion and pain? It is painful. This is really hard stuff. It's even more painful when we don't know how to get out of the pain. It disconnects us from who we could be, and how we want to show up for ourselves and others. This disconnect creates even more of a void, more fear, more worry, more of all we don't want to feel. Stuck, floundering, dark, not having a way to express our love when we most want to.
There is a way to transform all this fear into love and what that looks like and sounds like. In the light of awareness, love shines through into our lives, into our words and actions, and helps us find balance within the struggles, and a way to peace. We just need to know how to re-connect to it.
What we believe has a direct impact on our lives. Our beliefs are how we see the world, and how we interact in it. But what if they're not the whole story, or even true? And because we don't have our own truth just yet, we suffer in confusion and struggle. The Work of Byron Katie is the how of transformation. The Work is a way to identify the thoughts that are the root cause of our suffering and then question them, explore them, allow them to guide us into our own wisdom, the awareness of other perspectives, and finding the inner inspiration for a new way of meeting the world in a kinder, more effective way.
Anyone with an open mind can do this Work. It's radical, deeply profound, and simple.
If you have an interest in peace, I invite you to do The Work.
“The power of The Work is not in eliminating thoughts. Its power lies in the watching and investigation.
Notice thoughts, investigate them, and come to know for yourself that meeting them with understanding can be the end of internal war, which in turn is the end of all war.” ~ Byron Katie
There is a way to transform all this fear into love and what that looks like and sounds like. In the light of awareness, love shines through into our lives, into our words and actions, and helps us find balance within the struggles, and a way to peace. We just need to know how to re-connect to it.
What we believe has a direct impact on our lives. Our beliefs are how we see the world, and how we interact in it. But what if they're not the whole story, or even true? And because we don't have our own truth just yet, we suffer in confusion and struggle. The Work of Byron Katie is the how of transformation. The Work is a way to identify the thoughts that are the root cause of our suffering and then question them, explore them, allow them to guide us into our own wisdom, the awareness of other perspectives, and finding the inner inspiration for a new way of meeting the world in a kinder, more effective way.
Anyone with an open mind can do this Work. It's radical, deeply profound, and simple.
If you have an interest in peace, I invite you to do The Work.
“The power of The Work is not in eliminating thoughts. Its power lies in the watching and investigation.
Notice thoughts, investigate them, and come to know for yourself that meeting them with understanding can be the end of internal war, which in turn is the end of all war.” ~ Byron Katie
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Joanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, a Certified Facilitator of The Work of Byron Katie, and a Certified Family Recovery & Life Coach. She is committed to helping people empower their love and inspire recovery, to heal, find peace, and to find joy again in their lives. Drugs don't win here. Love does! |
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Family has great influence, and great love. Fear blocks inspiration. Love shows a way. So we need our own healing, new skills, tools, and supports. Then we become available, resilient, stronger for ourselves and for our loved ones, we can get our lives back, and be in a better position to help our loved ones get theirs back too. We just need to know how.
When in your own healing and recovery, it hopefully looks like getting informed, and getting supports to move forward with what you can do, and what can help you, and your loved one. It's about the ways of healing, transformation and hope. It's about getting out of the problem and into possible changes. You can contribute to possibilities.
You can restore connection with your loved one, you can communicate effectively without arguments, and you can develop the skills to help in ways that are helpful, and that can contribute to recovery. Are there guarantees? Not about another person's journey. We don't even have them about our own journeys. We're not the rulers of the universe, but we can create conditions that create possibility and connection. You have great purpose! This is love in action!
Research shows that when family members focus on their own healing and recovery, they become the best chance for their loved one to choose and maintain their own. You are your loved one's best chance at recovery.
Only one person needs to begin this process. I invite you to be that one. Now.
Contact me today to empower your love and inspire recovery!
When in your own healing and recovery, it hopefully looks like getting informed, and getting supports to move forward with what you can do, and what can help you, and your loved one. It's about the ways of healing, transformation and hope. It's about getting out of the problem and into possible changes. You can contribute to possibilities.
You can restore connection with your loved one, you can communicate effectively without arguments, and you can develop the skills to help in ways that are helpful, and that can contribute to recovery. Are there guarantees? Not about another person's journey. We don't even have them about our own journeys. We're not the rulers of the universe, but we can create conditions that create possibility and connection. You have great purpose! This is love in action!
Research shows that when family members focus on their own healing and recovery, they become the best chance for their loved one to choose and maintain their own. You are your loved one's best chance at recovery.
Only one person needs to begin this process. I invite you to be that one. Now.
Contact me today to empower your love and inspire recovery!
Other practices that really support your overall health and inner peace are: relaxation breathing/meditation, exercise, clean eating with minimal processed foods and organic when possible, drinking plenty of water, being in nature, connecting with friends, being of service/volunteering, finding a higher power from your own understanding, having a sleep routine, reading and watching inspirational media and/or something that inspires laughter and fun, listening to music, writing, practicing gratitude, support groups.
Please share your ideas. I'd love to hear them and add them to the list.
Please share your ideas. I'd love to hear them and add them to the list.
Why we do our work!
"Indeed my life is mellower due to you and your course." ~ B
"I have been an Alanoner for a long time but have to say Joanne's class has added so much to my life, I can barely explain it. It brought all those years of meetings, counseling, etc. together. Thanx Joanne again." ~ E
"Thank you Joanne. You have helped me so much to question my thoughts and beliefs. I have been living in such a hopeless dark place and doing this work with you has helped me re-think everything." ~ M
"It’s like coming out of the darkness and into the light. It’s changing all my relationships." ~ L
"I got my momentum since I'm in this class. I'm in the best place I've been in 4-5 years. I have my self-esteem back and I'm not depressed anymore." ~ D
"It’s really helping me to connect with my son, see how beautiful he is, and relieve my worrying. I'm not as angry anymore, I'm accepting him more, and feel less tension between us. Thank you Joanne!" ~R
"Indeed my life is mellower due to you and your course." ~ B
"I have been an Alanoner for a long time but have to say Joanne's class has added so much to my life, I can barely explain it. It brought all those years of meetings, counseling, etc. together. Thanx Joanne again." ~ E
"Thank you Joanne. You have helped me so much to question my thoughts and beliefs. I have been living in such a hopeless dark place and doing this work with you has helped me re-think everything." ~ M
"It’s like coming out of the darkness and into the light. It’s changing all my relationships." ~ L
"I got my momentum since I'm in this class. I'm in the best place I've been in 4-5 years. I have my self-esteem back and I'm not depressed anymore." ~ D
"It’s really helping me to connect with my son, see how beautiful he is, and relieve my worrying. I'm not as angry anymore, I'm accepting him more, and feel less tension between us. Thank you Joanne!" ~R