Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet? One Belief At A Time Worksheet?
What are these? What's the difference? How do I use these worksheets anyway? These worksheets are tools to identify the thoughts, that when believed, are causing our stress. We use these worksheets to guide our inquiry and do The Work without scrambling for the thoughts and circling in and around our stories, staying in stress mode. I love both of them. The Worksheets help me to sit quietly and guide me through Inquiry. Doing Inquiry with The Work first invites us to get still, ready to contemplate, and begin to identify our stories and the individual thoughts that are behind our stress.
For me, The Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet (The JYN) really nails down the thoughts. This is my go to, especially when my stress is intense, my suffering is deep and the story (and me believing it!) is strong. The JYN asks me to identify the situation, get right in it, identify a moment in time when I believed these thoughts and then start writing. No need to rush. Writing the worksheets is also meditation, it's an integral part of The Work. Here's a place to begin and a place to show us the next step, the next thought, a place to sit safely and effectively to undo our stories, and answer the next question. It's brilliant, gentle and complete. It can also show us the ways, the how to give ourselves the things that would bring us more peace, more kindness and more happiness.
The JYN captures so many thoughts: What is it that really bothers us? What was the offense? The judgment? What do we want instead? What should happen to bring us back to balance, freedom, peace, happy? What is it that we think we need? Just blow off steam, get real, get down and dirty. And, what is it we don't want to experience again? Even if we have recurring thoughts about the past or future, and not quite in the reality of our day, it's showing up. Why not sit with it? Let it have its time and release. It's been a lot easier for me to do that than to fight it or not accept that these thoughts do show up. The worksheets and The Work help to manage it all, to understand it all. After all, if we believe our thoughts, it becomes our reality. I love that The Work shows me a way to a kinder reality.
The JYN is stacked to guide us through the muck. Each question has its own nuance. If I have some pain, The JYN, a facilitator and I, have a date. I get so much from being facilitated and have found I can get stiller and more present when someone holds the space, and guides me as a compassionate witness. As client or facilitator, The Work is going to work.
Now for the One Belief At A Time Worksheet (The OBAT)...Awesome to take one thought at a time, to self-facilitate and capture thoughts, and answers on paper. Even if self-facilitated, any thought from The JYN can be put on The OBAT and taken to Inquiry. If there's a random thought just lurking in the shadows, there's The OBAT. On the go? Want a quick inquiry to clear the mind a bit? There's The OBAT. Also, when I use The OBAT, there could be an invitation to then use The JYN. Hmmmm, imagine realizing the story got deeper, a little bit more complicated...Yeah, it could happen.
We're fully supported with both of these worksheets, and with The Work. Bring them to The Helpline on thework.com, bring them to self-facilitation, or bring them to a facilitator. I'd love to support you to find your own freedom, and experience using these worksheets to do that.
From my Heart to Yours, Working for Peace and Love
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