I worked with a dear mom this week who experiences worry and anger because her daughter is not choosing life, she refuses to leave the very toxic boyfriend, won't get off the drugs or the street. What she wants for her daughter of course makes sense, but it's driving her crazy. Been there, repeatedly, could go there again.
So we take "crazy" and we question thoughts, that when believed, cause all this fear. The thought causing this mom so much distress is: "My daughter should choose life!". Seems it should be true, huh? Of course her daughter should choose life! But this mom discovered it's not completely true. Wow! How is that possible? This mom came to see, through questioning her thoughts and fears, a few very pivotal truths:
Without a story of what her daughter chooses or not, a story of what her daughter's life should be or not, she saw herself with her dear daughter: present, quiet, connected, curious, listening to her, in awe of her resourcefulness, and offering her availability in ways that felt right for this mom. Our conversation went to some doubts this mom has about her ability to sustain a presence like that when her daughter is blaming her, refusing to leave the boyfriend, when the reality of risks are real, when fear and worry are so real. So next time, we'll question the thought "I can't sustain that kind of presence", and she'd love to share her insights on that one too. I'll be right there with her questioning that one. What a great thought, it shows up, and it will guide to the truth that lies in and around it, and therefore, guide to peace, and to love. Stay tuned. In the meantime, thanks so much for joining me in choosing peace, choosing to love, choosing to take care of our worry, as best we can. Here's a free guide to help along the way. It includes some of my most used and effective ways to nurture inner peace. I hope it supports you too! Here's the guide: From Worry to Peace - Essential Steps to Empower Moms of Adult Children Struggling with Substance Abuse. Love wins here! Peace to you and your family, Joanne
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