What if they never heal?

"They're never going to heal". Another relapse, another arrest, they left AMA again, 10 times, 50 times, been at this for 1 year, 10 years. "They're never going to heal" can be a thought that just drops in, like it or not.  Even though you know you can't tell the future or know for sure, it doesn't stop the mind from attaching to and believing the thought.  

Of course you don't want to believe it but there it is, the thought comes uninvited, with lots of frightening images and tough emotions, it's exhausting.  

So what can you do instead of feeling controlled by these thoughts and emotions?  

You can question the thought.  Let's do that now:

1.  What happens when you believe the thought "they're never going to heal"?  

Pain. Frightening images of the past and future.  The ego mind thinks it's preparing you for the worst, and the worst is happening already, in your mind.  It's painful because we put our children into that ugly, imagined  future. We make ourselves into a god predicting an unknown future for our child, and for ourselves.  No wonder it hurts.  

2.  Without any story of their future, or their healing, what happens if instead you're willing to accept the reality of things, just without the thought "they're never going to heal"?

Present. Breathing again. Compassionate.  More patient. Assessing the facts.  Considering how to respond. Believing there are possibilities.  In my heart. Supportive.  Pro-Active. 

Thoughts and the fear they can generate, when believed, is normal, it is going to happen.  And it can be a guide to the truth that can set you free when you question the fear.  In my experience, it's a guide to understanding, that brings peace, that brings me to Love, brings me to align with God.


3.  They're never going to heal?  I have no idea and they certainly can, and maybe they are or getting ready to make that choice right now. There's lots of paths and ways to heal. 

What about my own healing? What about your healing?

Here is where the rubber hits the road, the choice to become more aware and accepting of the truth that the only one you can change is yourself.  And with some compassionate self-reflection, you can consider what is possible and what you CAN DO.  

Your own healing.  

Healing is a process.  Never going to heal?  The truth is we can always be in healing.  What if we are and just aren't aware of it's timing or depth?  What if it's on the way as we take care of ourselves even if not feeling great.  Healing can always in play, when we choose it.  It includes stops and go's, starts and completions, learning, growing, asking for and receiving help, caring for ourselves and whatever shows up.  
 

Healing into becoming more present, holding space for the fear, holding space for the thoughts ... coming back into deeper understanding, into the unconditional love we want to embody, into sharing from that place.

Healing in you, is healing in the world, and that is what you can share in any of your relationships. 

By questioning thoughts, they're exposed to the light of truth.  And that is where fear leaves. It lets go of you, you don't have to be concerned about letting go.  If you could, you would.  Skip the tension and pressure of letting go when you can't, and question the fear instead. That is where love will find you and move you, move you into more peace.

Being healed. Moved by Love.

YES to that!  Let's be moved together.  

Love Wins Here! 

Peace,

Joanne 

PS:  This writing is based on The Work of Byron Katie, one of my favorite tools for how effective and healing it can be.

For more tools on PEACE, here's my free guide:  How to Find Peace When You Worry   that can give you some foundational ideas to create more peace in your life.

Peace In, Peace Out.  May you have many moments there.