Connect, Communicate, Collaborate ~ The Other 3 C's

There are certain words when used with intention that can bring some ease to a hard situation.  "AND" is one of the words that can help you to connect, communicate, and collaborate.  The other 3 C's. 

Let's take a look at some phrases that can help you to connect with your loved one with more clarity, while communicating and inviting them to collaborate.  

 
1.  I love you AND that doesn't work for me.  What other ideas do you have (to approach this issue)?

2.  I'm really tired, I need some rest AND I'd like to discuss this with you later tonight, tomorrow ...  what time works for you? I love you. 

3.  I hear you say you want this AND I see you doing that.  Totally normal AND I'm here to listen and/or talk it out with you, if you'd like AND you don't have to.  I love you. 

4.  I won't give you that AND I will give you this. I love you. 

5.  I love you. I want to respect your needs AND mine.  How else can we do this where we both get our needs met? 

Notice how sharing your love connects, you are communicating without trying to fix or change someone else, you're inviting your loved one to consider possibilities and to collaborate. 

It doesn't mean your loved one will be able to or want to engage in discussion, it's their choice to or not to.  Your part is to do what you can to create the path for connection.  If your loved one decides they don't want to discuss anything with you, remind yourself that it doesn't mean forever, it's just for now.  This path opens the door to a greater possibility of open communication in the future ... because you're building connection while respecting their autonomy and choice.  People like that. 

If this is new info for you, try it on.  I would suggest you listen to your own voice saying these phrases, add your own edits to personalize them, and practice before you share with your loved one. You'll feel more confident that way. 

If change is what you're interested in, these phrases and the intention behind them to build connection can help to create conditions that inspire change. Please don't expect immediate results, in fact don't expect results at all.  Let you and your loved one off that hook.

The path becomes smoother when you also do the inner work to get your intentions aligned with your energy, learning and practicing tools that help with your actions, and working through your fears. 

It may sound like a lot, and maybe it is to some degree ... AND with a lot of benefits too! 

Let me know your thoughts.  If you'd like some support with all this, I'm here to listen AND discuss to help you figure out next steps and put it into life application so you start to feel better and more hopeful.  Just reply to this email and we'll set up a time to chat. 
 

Love wins here! 

Peace to you and your family,

Joanne