Treatment is a great beginning, but what happens when the person with a Substance Use Disorder returns home, or if they never get to treatment?
When families learn the Be A Loving Mirror Method they become important and critical supporters for recovery in the home, and in the process find greater joy and peace for themselves.
he BALM® Comprehensive Family Recovery Education Program helps families become their loved one's best chance of recovery. BALM® is the acronym for Be A Loving Mirror. Being love and loving is a powerful and attractive way to promote healing and move through the challenges of loving someone who is addicted. You just need some tools and skills to help along the way.
Families who learn The BALM® (Be A Loving Mirror) method learn how to:
Move from misunderstanding to awareness
Develop healthy coping and stress management strategies
Relieve the judgment and fear that create barriers between themselves and their loved ones
Create inner calm and peace to reflect love and connection
Become aware of triggers and reactions that can give their loved ones excuses to relapse
Improve communication with their loved one as they practice how to initiate effective discussion, and to respond rather than react
Learn how to create and stick to healthy boundaries
Adopt life changing skills while simultaneously contributing to improved relationships with their loved one, and others.
This course is for:
Family members in any stage of recovery who love someone experiencing addiction
Parents of addicted loved ones in prison, after-care programs, or halfway houses
Spouses, children, and siblings of addicted loved ones
Parents of teens struggling with excessive experimentation in high school or college
Anyone concerned about a friend or loved one’s drinking or drugging
Our powerful educational program is accessed on-line, 24/7, from the comforts of your own home and convenience according to your own schedule. It addresses three critical areas:
1. Information: We will educate you with 12 Family Recovery Principles including Power Point presentations, review of The 12 Principles through two weekly live calls, a workbook, and an online archive of over 200 hours of lessons including expert interviews, discussions, recovering speakers and recovery families. All of this information is recorded and organized in an easy-to-access, easy to digest way that you can access in the comfort of your own home and at your own pace.
2. Transformation: Families receive tools to put that information into practice with a group course to discover The 7 Steps to BALM®, a way that empowers families to effectively communicate with their loved one using the BALM® (Be A Loving Mirror) method and The BALM® Conversation.
What is a BALM® Conversation?
A mini-intervention you can have with your loved one.
A 7 step process that transforms conversations from argument to connection and turns chaos to peace.
A method of bringing sanity into the relationships, improving your loved one’s chances of getting well.
3.Support: Two weekly group coaching calls where the coach introduces tools, exercises, and insights to provide BALM® families additional opportunities to grow their family recovery. Families can get their questions answered, receive support, share what works, and hear how others are coping with the challenges of a loved one’s struggles with substance use disorder and other addictions. There are also additional groups you can access including Journaling on weekly topics, Overeaters Anonymous and Morning Meditation.
You’re desperate for a way to help your loved one. Everybody’s telling you to get rid of them, to kick them out and cut them off—but it doesn’t feel right. After trying countless ways to deal with the situation, hopelessness sets in, leaving you with no choice but to stand by and watch. Inside BALM®, Beverly Buncher opens your eyes and shows you the truth—it’s preposterous to say there’s nothing you can do.BALM®: The Loving Path to Family Recovery turns the ideas to ‘hitting bottom’ and ‘tough love’ upside down, replacing these concepts with Connection and Unconditional Love.
This step-by-step guide to family recovery teaches you how to:
Erase judgments that create barriers between families and their loved one Regain the inner calm and peace you thought was lost forever Become aware of triggers that can give your addict excuses to relapse Set and stick to boundaries to achieve peace in the home Learn the “Loving Mirror” secrets for a sane and joyful life! Written for those who know just how difficult it can be to cope with the lifestyle of a using addict, BALM® empowers families to transform their inner attitudes and relationships with each other. Give your struggling loved one their BEST chance at recovery, the BALM® method will transform not only their lives—but also your own. To purchase the book, BALM: The Loving Path to Family Recovery Please Click Here: https://qn129.isrefer.com/go/BALMBookLovingPath/JRichards/
What Some of Our Parents Are Saying:
BALM® Parent - South Carolina With a large diverse family that has been affected by alcoholism and addiction, I can shout out from the mountain top that the BALM® Program has saved my life over and over again. As a longtime member of al anon, the BALM® Program has enhanced my program and given me additional tools for living life to the fullest on life's terms. I would recommend the BALM® Program to anyone who is being consumed by a loved one’s life of addiction. The peace and serenity I have gained by practicing the BALM® Program is a priceless gift that has helped my entire family.
BALM® Parent - MA As an employee of a state Family Court for thirty-seven and one half years, I dealt daily with families in crisis due to addiction to alcohol, street and/or prescription drugs, gambling and other similar addictions. Then my own family was touched by addiction. After my loved one became sober, their addiction counselor referred me to the BALM® Program, developed and run by Beverly Buncher. Through the BALM® Program, my family was able to learn and develop skills for dealing with an addicted loved one in a positive and loving manner. It contributed directly to the well-being of our family and its’ members. It also teaches you to be calm through meditation, breathing and other techniques that contribute to your healing. Through the BALM® theory, you learn to heal and nurture yourself after the devastating realization that your family has been touched by addiction and to use your skills to help your loved one through the difficult process of obtaining and maintaining sobriety. BALM® teaches you to “Be a Loving Mirror”, to teach through your example. You will learn how to use the skills taught by BALM® to better deal with the issues that come up with your loved one. It is true that what BALM® teaches you, it helps you be “your loved-one’s best chance at recovery.” As a BALM® participant through its’ several programs, you will hear from professionals in the field of addiction and recovery as well as from recovered addicts themselves. They relate their own personal stories leaving you with the understanding that you are not alone. BALM® has lifted a great weight from my shoulders and has left me with skills that not only work to help me and my loved one, but also with skills that can be used in other areas of life where you interact with others, such as at work and other social groups. BALM® ’s website is easily accessible and gives you 24/7 access to the Lessons taught and testimonials given to let you listen again, past and present. BALM® is truly a lifeline for everyone who takes advantage of its’ many offerings. I will be forever grateful to the BALM® family.
BALM® Parent - Nevada BALM® is about communicating with love. I learned every addict deserves love, dignity and respect. My son, a type 1 diabetic @ age eight went to college and lost himself. His erratic behavior baffled me. For two years he had mental health professionals telling us it was me and my protective ways. "He is fine, simply clip the wings." Insulin dependent children can make the most laid back parents somewhat controlling. I was convinced I was the problem. I did a lot of inner work "letting go" yet his behavior continued growing out of control. When I discovered he was using Kratom a synthetic drug undetectable via testing I was happy to know I wasn't crazy but now what? Heartbroken, lost and confused a physician friend recommended coaching/ BALM® for this difficult "journey." Journey? I wanted this fixed immediately. I recall my words, “just stop." I had no idea he'd require treatment. Sadly, with passage of time, he had developed the "art of refusal" and convinced me he would die before going to treatment. I knew my conversations needed to be heard at the deepest level imaginable. BALM® taught me how to have loving conversations with healthy boundaries. Thanks to BALM® I was able to have a calm face-to-face intervention conversation with him. He heard my heart and knew I was committed to "loving him to life vs loving him to death". He agreed to an intense wilderness program and transitioned into a long term structured sober living home. He is 10 months sober and the insanity has stopped. Initially I signed up for the twelve week (continues throughout the year) course with coaching and then opted to take the seven week course. I re-enrolled this year and suspect I'll be a BALM® er for life.
Spreading Peace Together Each time you invest in yourself through one of the programs, 10% of your contribution goes towards a non-profit initiative for drug awareness, prevention and treatment. You’re not only helping yourself, you’re also helping others along the way.